【家人被抓了，我該怎麼辦？】—— 給家屬的心理支持與法律指引

這篇寫給還在驚慌的你，莫急、莫慌、莫害怕，我們一起面對。

某個凌晨，發現家人沒回家，電話也沒接。

你一邊滑著手機、一邊安慰自己「應該只是跟朋友出門夜唱沒有看手機」，但隨著夜越來越深，他的手機仍舊打不通......直到接到陌生來電才知道他人在警局、據稱是涉嫌毒品案件，手機已被警方查扣。

你不敢置信，震驚、憤怒、大腦一片空白。

你想問：「怎麼會這樣？」、「是不是詐騙集團」、「我該做什麼？」

我們理解你現在的心情，因為這些年我們遇過太多這般惶惑的父母、伴侶、兄弟姊妹。

你現在可以做的三件事：

一、確認他的法律狀態他現在在哪裡？是警局還是地檢署？還是已經被收押到看守所？如果你不知道，可以打電話到他被抓的承辦警局或地檢署，報上名字問看看。

二、不要自己瞎猜流程，找律師協助律師越早介入，對被告的幫助越大。很多家屬都會說：「我怕他真的做錯事，找律師是不是代表包庇他？」其實不是，律師不是幫他脫罪，是幫他「知道自己的權利」、「好好面對後果」。法律不是只有定罪，也有減刑、緩刑、緩起訴處分等多種可能性。

三、給他知道：你還在很多當事人最怕的，不是被關，是「讓家人失望」。所以當他聽到律師轉述：「你爸媽說會等你回來，叫你別怕，大家都愛你」，這句話重如千斤，大部分的時候都會換來當事人兩行眼淚。

你可能會想問：「收押是什麼？代表他很嚴重嗎？可以去看他嗎？」「他只是朋友找他幫寄個東西，為什麼變成共犯？」這些問題，我們在不違反律師倫理以及偵查不公開的前提下都回答過。所以別怕問，問清楚比自己亂猜、上網亂問AI或是聽信司法黃牛說給錢就能疏通管道有用得多。你可能會覺得：「是不是我沒教好？」、「他會不會就這樣有前科？」、「他的人生怎麼辦」、「我還能怎麼幫忙？」你甚至可能會怕，左鄰右舍知道會怎樣⋯⋯

但我想告訴你：你願意在這個最艱困的時刻站在他身邊陪他一起走過人生低谷，就是對他最好的協助。很多當事人及家人反而在一同經歷這場風雨後，關係更加緊密；所以不要擔心，不要害怕，當我們遇到這種問題時，相信家人、相信律師，做最好的準備做最壞的打算，要相信風雨過後，一定會有晴天。

English Version

This is for you, who are still panicking — don’t rush, don’t fear, don’t lose hope. We’ll face this together.

It’s the middle of the night. A family member hasn’t come home, and they’re not answering their phone.
You keep checking your phone, trying to reassure yourself: “Maybe they just went out with friends and didn’t notice the time.”
But as the night drags on, their phone remains unreachable…
Until a call from an unknown number finally comes — they’re at the police station, allegedly involved in a drug case. Their phone has been seized by the police.

You’re in disbelief — shocked, angry, your mind goes blank.
You want to ask: “How did this happen?”, “Is this a scam?”, “What should I do?”

We understand exactly how you feel right now — because over the years, we’ve met many parents, partners, siblings who were just as confused and scared.

Here are three things you can do right now:

1. Confirm their legal status
Where are they? At the police station? At the District Prosecutor’s Office? Or have they already been taken into custody at a detention center?
If you’re not sure, you can call the responsible police station or prosecutor’s office where they were taken. Give their name and ask for information.

2. Don’t try to figure everything out on your own — get a lawyer’s help
The earlier a lawyer gets involved, the more they can help the accused.
Many families hesitate, saying: “What if they really did something wrong? Would hiring a lawyer make it look like we’re covering for them?”
But that’s not the case. A lawyer doesn’t exist to help them escape the law — the lawyer is there to help them understand their rights and face the consequences properly.
The law isn’t just about punishment — there are also possibilities like sentence reduction, probation, or deferred prosecution.

3. Let them know: you’re still here
What many detainees fear the most isn’t prison — it’s disappointing their loved ones.
So when the lawyer says to them, “Your parents said they’re waiting for you to come home. Don’t be afraid. Everyone still loves you,”
those words are as heavy as a thousand pounds — and often, they bring tears to their eyes.

You might be wondering:
“What does being detained mean? Does it mean the situation is serious? Can I visit them?”
“They only helped a friend deliver something — how did they become an accomplice?”

We’ve answered all of these questions before, within the bounds of attorney ethics and confidentiality rules.
So don’t be afraid to ask. It’s far better to get clear answers than to make guesses, ask AI, or believe legal fixers who promise results if you pay money.

You might feel:
“Did I fail as a parent?”
“Will they now have a criminal record?”
“What will happen to their future?”
“What else can I do to help?”
You might even be afraid of what the neighbors will say…

But here’s what I want to tell you: Choosing to stand by them in their darkest hour — to walk with them through this storm — is the best support you can give.
Many people actually come out of this experience with stronger family bonds.
So don’t worry, don’t be afraid.
When facing situations like this, trust your family, trust your lawyer, and prepare for the worst while hoping for the best.
Because after the storm — there will always be sunshine.